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Catch Problems Early

As I write this, I am waiting in my dermatologist’s office to have minor surgery. He detected a small spot of skin cancer on my face. That’s always a potential problem here in sunny Florida. Fortunately, they caught mine early and the procedure to correct it should be fairly simple. They found my skin cancer in a routine exam. That is to say, I had no symptoms. It wasn’t visible, wasn’t conspicuous, or even noticeable. But, had I ignored it, it most definitely would have worsened and possibly become serious. As they say, prevention beats treatment. And even when treatment is required, the earlier, the better.

Earlier is Better

That is true in so many settings: fixing problems earlier is almost always easier, faster, less painful and less costly. As a couples therapist, I know that is also true with relationships. Countless couples look happy on the surface. They have no obvious signs of trouble. But, things are often brewing out of sight, even from them. And even after problems begin to show, sadly, by the time many couples come to me, they have struggled for quite some time, maybe for years. They’ve “kicked the can down the road” until they are in serious trouble. Some crippled couples are on “life support” by the time they seek therapy. At that point, the treatment is so much harder, takes so much longer and, sadly, some couples are past the point of no return.

Renowned relationship researcher John Gottman says that most couples wait an average of six years knowing that something isn’t working between them before they decide to get help. What a waste of time and energy. It makes so much sense to make a good relationship better rather than to wait until things are falling apart. Early intervention is smart.

Hold Me Tight®️ is a Great Start

And when it comes to an easier, simpler way to improve a relationship, often a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat is a great intervention. Hold Me Tight®️ is a two day couples experience that can help couples change their relationship dramatically. Hold Me Tight®️ is not therapy. It’s less intensive, less intrusive and lower impact. Hold Me Tight®️ often helps couples catch potential problems before they have spread and become serious enough to need therapy. Or, Hold Me Tight®️ can help couples see that they indeed do need that level of treatment. Either way, Hold Me Tight®️ can make a world of difference for couples of any age, stage, situation or circumstance.

At Hold Me Tight,®️ couples learn to see their relationship in a new way. They learn the powerful lessons of attachment science. They learn to not only to understand conflict, but to interrupt it. They learn to have conversations, not confrontations. They learn to connect, often in ways they never knew they could. They learn to heal wounds, sometimes old wounds that have festered for far too long. Couples consistently leave a Hold Me Tight®️ retreat with confidence and competence they never had…all in the span of just a couple of days.

Take the First Step Today

So, when it comes to good relationship health, catching problems early is smart in every way. Hold Me Tight®️ is a great way to do it.

Don’t wait for problems to get serious. Don’t let them fester. Don't hide your head in the sand. Hold Me Tight®️ can be just what the doctor ordered. All the details are on this website. Our next workshop is just a few weeks away. Sign up today and join us in Orlando!

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When You Hit Turbulence

By Mark Beck • December 16, 2024

Now and then, I travel by air. I enjoy it, for the most part. But, on one trip, seemingly out of nowhere, the plane hit heavy turbulence. Suddenly, the cabin was shuttering and shaking. I looked outside; the wings were visibly bouncing up and down as the plane lurched and pitched. I tried to hide my fear, but (pardon the pun) it really shook me up. My stomach tightened; my breathing got shallow. I couldn’t think straight. Having such little experience with something like that, I feared we would crash. But, then, I noticed the flight attendants. They were cool as the backside of a pillow…no panic or alarm. I wondered how they could be so calm. Soon the pilot came over the intercom and in a steady, measured voice, explained that turbulence is normal, the plane was built for much, much worse and it would all subside in a few moments. The crew had been through this many times. They understood what was happening and what to do. I was so glad that somebody did! Their calm was contagious. Gradually, I was able to relax and realized that it wasn’t the crisis I had feared it was. That was a game changer. I got through it and now, turbulence isn’t the problem it used to be for me when I fly. It still happens, but I know what it’s about when it does and that gets me through. .

In Person Or Online?

By Mark Beck • December 2, 2024

Vicki and I will start something new in March of 2025. We have been leading in person Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreats at least four times a year for six years now. No two are the same; we always see amazing results and we get more than we give every time. And, in addition to our in person workshops, we’ll also begin offering online Hold Me Tight®️ workshops next year. In person and online workshops are definitely different. Each format has its own advantages. So, what’s different about the two and what is the same and which might be best for you? I’m glad you asked.

What About Love Languages?

By Mark Beck • November 19, 2024

Dr. Gary Chapman’s “The Five Love Languages” is one of the most popular and prolific couples self-help books in history. Since its initial release in 1992, through several revisions, it has sold over 20 million copies. That’s one popular book! Perhaps you’ve read it. If not, it’s worth your time. Chapman basically contends that romantic love shows up in five ways. He calls them “languages.” In no particular order, they are: personal touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service and giving gifts. The idea is that all of us have a top one or two love languages and that couples can and should know, not only their own love language, but more so, their partner’s. And the more you and your partner speak one another’s language, the more love you’ll both share.

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By Mark Beck • October 30, 2024

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A Real Learning Experience

By Mark Beck • October 9, 2024

A Hold Me Tight®️ retreat is a transformational learning experience for couples. Two words there are key: learning and experience. First, what do you learn? You learn fascinating insights from attachment science. You learn that emotions are what drive us. Think about it: the word “emotion” contains the word “motion.” Emotions move us, motivate us. Emotions incite behaviors, actions and reactions. Emotions inform every level of our existence. And our most powerful, most vulnerable emotions are beneath the surface.