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Catch Problems Early

As I write this, I am waiting in my dermatologist’s office to have minor surgery. He detected a small spot of skin cancer on my face. That’s always a potential problem here in sunny Florida. Fortunately, they caught mine early and the procedure to correct it should be fairly simple. They found my skin cancer in a routine exam. That is to say, I had no symptoms. It wasn’t visible, wasn’t conspicuous, or even noticeable. But, had I ignored it, it most definitely would have worsened and possibly become serious. As they say, prevention beats treatment. And even when treatment is required, the earlier, the better.

Earlier is Better

That is true in so many settings: fixing problems earlier is almost always easier, faster, less painful and less costly. As a couples therapist, I know that is also true with relationships. Countless couples look happy on the surface. They have no obvious signs of trouble. But, things are often brewing out of sight, even from them. And even after problems begin to show, sadly, by the time many couples come to me, they have struggled for quite some time, maybe for years. They’ve “kicked the can down the road” until they are in serious trouble. Some crippled couples are on “life support” by the time they seek therapy. At that point, the treatment is so much harder, takes so much longer and, sadly, some couples are past the point of no return. 

Renowned relationship researcher John Gottman says that most couples wait an average of six years knowing that something isn’t working between them before they decide to get help. What a waste of time and energy. It makes so much sense to make a good relationship better rather than to wait until things are falling apart. Early intervention is smart.

Hold Me Tight®️ is a Great Start

And when it comes to an easier, simpler way to improve a relationship, often a Hold Me Tight®️ couples retreat is a great intervention. Hold Me Tight®️ is a two day couples experience that can help couples change their relationship dramatically. Hold Me Tight®️ is not therapy. It’s less intensive, less intrusive and lower impact. Hold Me Tight®️ often helps couples catch potential problems before they have spread and become serious enough to need therapy. Or, Hold Me Tight®️ can help couples see that they indeed do need that level of treatment. Either way, Hold Me Tight®️ can make a world of difference for couples of any age, stage, situation or circumstance. 

At Hold Me Tight,®️ couples learn to see their relationship in a new way. They learn the powerful lessons of attachment science. They learn to not only to understand conflict, but to interrupt it. They learn to have conversations, not confrontations. They learn to connect, often in ways they never knew they could. They learn to heal wounds, sometimes old wounds that have festered for far too long. Couples consistently leave a Hold Me Tight®️ retreat with confidence and competence they never had…all in the span of just a couple of days.

Take the First Step Today

So, when it comes to good relationship health, catching problems early is smart in every way. Hold Me Tight®️ is a great way to do it. 

Don’t wait for problems to get serious. Don’t let them fester. Don't hide your head in the sand. Hold Me Tight®️ can be just what the doctor ordered. All the details are on this website. Our next workshop is just a few weeks away. Sign up today and join us in Orlando!


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